Why do people say “hurt yourself” when talking about suicide? I was in psychology section…?

Question by trees: Why do people say “hurt yourself” when talking about suicide? I was in psychology section…?
And this term comes up why is it? It’s SOOO not the intention to hurt oneself, quite the contrary. I find it extremely hostile..
that’s what they’re doing? so you’ve been dead, have you?
a permanent solution…okay, but YOU’RE no longer there so to YOU it won’t be permanent. You can’t witness your own death…

Best answer:

Answer by i’lleatyourdog.
it may not be the intention, but ultimately, that’s what they’re doing.

edit: honestly, your sentence makes no sense.
what? are you saying taking a blade and slicing yourself with it ISN’T intentionally hurting yourself ? it’s not like they’re “accidentally” doing it.
maybe to their mentality it’s not- but obviously, it IS.

“hurt” can be used several ways. don’t contemplate so long on the various meanings of it, cuz you’re going to come up with a lot.

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6 Comments so far »

  1. Bon Bon said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 4:17 am

    they have a disorder and need the help from a professional
    most are teens that are so unhappy and just want some attention

  2. Alexis K said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 4:59 am

    Hostile? Suicide is a decission a person makes to end one’s problems. Normally ending there life is not the way they see it, but an end to suffering. They don’t think of it as hurting oneself. Now, people with poor couping skills make hurt themsellves to releive internal pain. They may cut or burn them selves. Now they know they are hurting them selves. Is this what you were reading?

  3. Edward The Original said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 5:12 am

    they may have been talking about self harm, although in the context of suicide, it is to end your pain, however it should never be recommended. suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

  4. lalabella said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 5:56 am

    Most people who attempt suicide do so not because they want to hurt themselves or punish themselves but because they feel there is, literally, no other way. They don’t feel able to wake up another day and deal with life, emotions and all that comes with it. It is a massive depressive state which chemically alters a persons brain to have no motivation, to in short, LIVE.

    I think the “hurting yourself” you mention is in regards to physical harm people cause themselves which has many reasons. Some feel shame, some do it to feel alive (because they don’t feel alive otherwise), etc.

    Let me know if you need anymore information. Hope it helps!

  5. DutchDave said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 5:57 am

    The expression: “hurt yourself” comes from popular culture. In many movies and series characters use this phrase whenever someone wants to commit suicide and have a positive intention towards this person. Overtime it was adopted by society but there’s also another mechanism at work:

    The actual term evolved overtime by the “unexpressed-yet-not-so-unexpressed” concern for the person wanting to kill themselves. People so badly don’t want the other person dead they hope or rather have first toughts about an unsuccesfull suicide attempt like a person only hurting themselves trying to slit their arms with a knife thereby avoiding the actual death altogether. People often form their communication on pictures and even more on their intentions.

    When you borrow your dad’s care it is highly unlikely he’ll shout at you when you drive away: “Make sure the car doesn’t get in a terrible crash and explodes due to a gasoline leakage!” – it might give you the idea that as long as the car isn’t totaly ruined everything’s fine.

    The car being destroyed is the one thing he doesn’t even want to think about! Instead it’ll be more likely that he would say: “Don’t get any scratches on the car.”

  6. Mell said,

    Wrote on July 23, 2012 @ 6:42 am

    We live in a society that deems suicide the ultimate sin and something that shouldn’t even be considered. People will reiterate any rhetoric they can to paint suicide in a negative light. They say things like “it’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem” and “there’s always someone who has it worse than you”. These overused sayings are usually little consolation to truly suicidal people and they tend to place a sort of blame on the person considering suicide. This is merely a ploy to reduce the number of suicides every year so that more people will continue to work, pay taxes, and stimulate economies. Not because people feel that a person is “needed” and special.

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