What should I say to this guy in my college class that’s really starting to annoy me?
There is this guy that sits next to me in my psychology of sexuality class. In this class, I gave a presentation along with a gay male, on what life is like for us (I’m FtM..female to male transsexual, by the way). So since he’s learned about my trans status, he’s constantly trying to be “helpful” by giving me “tips” on how to be more male. He tells me I need to work out more. For example, today he said “You need to like workout or something. I saw you today through the quad and noticed you still have a female shape, ya know”? And before this, he commented on the way I push up my glasses on my face, saying it looked feminine. Then he comments on the pitch of my voice, and just a lot of other unsolicited “advice”. It’s REALLY starting to piss me off. What should I do? I’ve already tried to be tactful, and tell him that I appreciate the tips, but I’m happy with how I am.
Can’t move seats. We’re in a big lecture hall, and the seats are assigned to make testing purposes and attendance easier.
Perspective said,
Wrote on September 23, 2010 @ 9:25 am
move seats!
Avalon said,
Wrote on September 23, 2010 @ 9:52 am
“Thanks for your attempts to help me; it means something to me that you don’t hate me for who I am. But I’m sorry to say that the constant flow of advice feels like nagging and it makes me feel a little uncomfortable and singled out. I appreciate your concern and help but I’m okay. I’d really feel better if you stopped.”
Or something else like that.
ℓiηdsєy [♥!] said,
Wrote on September 23, 2010 @ 10:31 am
“Sorry, my girlfriend would not be happy if I started devoting my free time in the evenings to working out instead of showering her with attention. She also likes the way I push my glasses up on my nose, and the pitch of my voice.”