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The Somewhat Ethical Use Of Reverse Psychology To Get Him Back

Article by Cory McCree

There certainly is a lot of advice given on how to get your ex back but one that has an actual thread of truth in it is using reverse psychology. Maybe you’ve tried talking to your ex or tried convincing him that you love him and that you should get back together, but nothing is working. Perhaps you should consider using a little reverse psychology on him to get him to change his mind.

Simplified, reverse psychology is just leading someone to believe that you desire the complete opposite of what is really on your mind while you hope that they rebel and do exactly what you want. Reverse psychology is used by some parents to bring bratty kids into line. So, if your ex is acting like a bad boy (not in a good way!) then this might seem like the perfect tactic to get him to come back to you, right?

Let me give you an example. What you need to do is make your exboyfriend or ex husband believe that you have no fondness for him whatsoever. Normally, a guy would react by withdrawing. But if your ex is being defiant, like a small child, and he is pushing you away then reverse psychology would make him begging to pursue you again.

You might have already guessed that this technique, while very effective on little kids who are throwing a fit on the floor of a grocery store, might not work on a grown man. It can be a dangerous tactic sometimes in that your ex might just become super belligerent and completely close that door and ride off into the sunset feeling justified in doing so since you told him basically that you didn’t care anymore.

You are just missing a piece of the puzzle. You see, although using psychological methods are very effective in changing a guy’s mind your ex needs to be motivated in order for reverse psychology to work effectively. He needs to want you, need you, desire you, love you and adore you before you can leverage reverse psychology. Without some emotion or desire behind it, you withdrawing your affections will have no effect on him.

Making him feel love and actually fall in love with you and feel those deep emotions are what will push him over the edge. Now we’re talking and that is what psychological techniques need to do and what using male psychology is all about. You’re never going to be able to convince him of anything by hounding him and that is why these subtle, almost subliminal techniques are so effective when trying to get your ex back. He is never really going to know what you’re up to girl!

If you want a real tip I’ll tell you that the best thing that you can do starting right now is to give him some time and space. Let the smoke from your breakup clear and give him a little bit of time to calm down and cool off. Once he has begun to relax, regain his senses and let his guard down it will be easier to get him back. Not only will these methods, such as using a little reverse psychology mixed with pushing his male emotional hot buttons bring him back but you might find that he winds up chasing after you in a way that you never thought was possible.

If you wonder if this stuff works. if using psychological tricks and male psychology to get him back just think about what governments use to get soldiers to defect during war time. They use psychological tactics to make grown men leave the country that they loved enough to die for. So what makes you think that there might be a better way to change your ex’s mind about your breakup and make him come back to you?