Q&A: Why do I keep thinking so low of myself when I am around the one person I love?

Question by xayanexchanx: Why do I keep thinking so low of myself when I am around the one person I love?
I love my boyfriend deeply. (I am 20, so please do not tell me that I do not tell me I am to young to be in love)
However, I keep getting extremely depressed because I keep thinking that he is too good for me, and that he can do better than me.
He is a member of Mensa for one. (something for the people with the top IQ..) and is going to become a math professor, graduating a year early with a almost perfect gpa. He also plays hockey and golf.
Me? I am simply only a criminal justice major in college who is behind on credits because I had to take the non credit math (I am horrible at it) with a minor in psychology. (I am rather pathetic.. I want to help others but I cant even help my self through this situation.) with only a 3.0 out of a possible 4.0

I have talked to my boyfriend about this several times, but nothing he says changes how I feel about myself. I still keep thinking he can do better. The thing is, everyone i talk to about him says ” Wow! what is he doing dating you!?” which hurts a lot more than people mean it to.

Here’s another thing: I am his first girlfriend (He is going to be 21) He said he never really found interest in any girl before. I met him on a dating site..
So I am afraid that we are not going to work out because I am his very first girlfriend (Even though he says he loves me from the bottom of his heart, and someday hopes to spend the rest of his life with me)

Please help.. I am driving myself insane. I love him more than anything and I don’t want to loose him because of these feelings I have.

Best answer:

Answer by Hey Beautiful.
He would have left you by now if he really wanted to hun.

He loves you..so he’s with you for a reason!

Keep your head up and walk with confidence.

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3 Comments so far »

  1. MISSY said,

    Wrote on January 18, 2012 @ 1:26 am

    LET ME TELL U UR A VERY BLESSED PERSON TO HAVE SOMEONE THAT LOVES U N U LOVE HIM .U THINK U HAVE NOT ACCOMPLISHED NOTHING OMG U DOIN UR LAWYER THING THAT IS MAJOR FOR REAL ,UR NOT DOIN WELL IM MATH CAUSE UR GIVING UP ON URSELF .PICK URSELF UP N KNOW U DESERVE TO BE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PERSON TO BE HAPPY . DONT LET ANYTHING GET U DOWN .KNOW UR A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT .DONT U SEE HE LOVES U FOR U .KNOW UR GOOD FOR HIM UR GOOD FOR U .LET ME TELL U SOMETHING MONEY IS GOOD TO HELP US TO SURVIVE BUT THE TRUE BEAUTY IS HAVING A LOVE THAT IS SO BEAUTIFUL HAVING SOMEONE LOVE U THATS THE GIFT THAT NO EDUCATION OR MONEY CAN BUY BLESSINGS

  2. Rachel S said,

    Wrote on January 18, 2012 @ 1:50 am

    if he continues to stay with you, he must think that you are good enough! i once heard the quote “our strengths come from our weakness” don’t let this one feeling break your relationship. instead it should make it stronger. and whenever people say rude things to you just brush it off. you never know what they are thinking, whether they are jealous or angry with the realtionship…
    the only thing that should matter in the relationship is that you are happy. and no need to worry if he will be with you forever… forever consists of nows and what you are feeling is the only thing that should matter!

  3. EmmyJuli said,

    Wrote on January 18, 2012 @ 1:57 am

    It sounds like you can’t even accept who you really are! If you can’t accept who you are than it is impossible to have any self respect at all.
    You are not a bad person because of your GPA. Those things don’t make you who you really are! Lets get real, not every person on the earth is a genius and has a 4.0 GPA, nor is everyone expected to! Nobody is perfect! Not even your boyfriend, so you should not have this feeling, but you obviously do since you cant accept yourself for who you really are! You are NOT a bad, stupid, or worthless person!

    You could try reading books about how to boost your selfesteem, this helped me a lot and tought me what is needed in order to have good selfesteem. There is a lot more to it than I ever thought, and it takes a while but it is truly worth it!
    Hope this helps!
    Best of Luck to you and your boyfriend!

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