Q&A: Parents: who do you hold accountable for your childs actions?

Question by KandCsMommie: Parents: who do you hold accountable for your childs actions?
If your 15 year old got suspended for fighting would u blame that he watched UFC fights on TV and didnt get picked for the Varsity baseball team and had some aner over that and blah blah blah. Or would you give your kid a kick in the azz and tell them to get their shiat straight and spend more time with them ect.

If your 12 year old had sex and got pregnant would you blame britney spears? Is it “American Eagles” fault for selling short shorts? Or do you blame the fact that you’ve been too involved with work and golf lately? And that you really should have monitored her myspace usage more to see who she was talking to and what she is up to? SHould you have not let her stay over betty annes without talking to betty’s parents first to check things out?

There is a term in psychology called “personal efficacy”. Basically it means how much an individual takes resonsibility for themselves and things they are to care for (like children). It kills me every day that there are stupid women who win millions because they bought a hot coffee that they carelessly spilled on themselves.

It kills me that when a 10 year old weighs 200lbs because he eats at mcd’s 3 times a day everyday that it’s the chains fault for not listing at content. Because everyone doesnt already know that 90% of the food they sell will give u a heart attack 10 minutes after digesting it.

WHen did parents stop parenting and making it everyone elses job? I really just want to know. Why is you kids well being the problem of everyone else?
MOM-I said a stupid woman because 4-5 years ago a stupid woman spilled her hot hot mcd’ys coffee and tried to sue because it was hot and she burned herself with it.

Best answer:

Answer by Judo
I hold myself accountable up until they are a certain age. Then I hold myself and themselves accountable.

What do you think? Answer below!

7 Comments so far »

  1. jen said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 1:44 pm

    I would hold myself and her father accountable, in addition to her (depending on her age). There will always be positive and negative influences out there in the world, but we are her strongest influence and we set the pace for what is right/wrong, good/bad, not the media, not the fast-food chains, etc.

  2. samdesalvo22 said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 2:35 pm

    I hold myself responsible for everything my kid does. It’s my job to make sure he is a good person. I can turn off the tv, feed him correctly, discipline, and teach him about safe sex. I am his parent and I am the one who made him, so I put all the responsibility on me to make sure I am raising him right.

  3. Mom :] said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 2:59 pm

    I hold myself accountable for my children’s actions, until they get old enough to make decisions for themselves.

    answer my parenting question please?


  4. Michelle said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 3:35 pm

    If my 15 year old gets in a fight, it’s probably his own fault. If not – it’s the fault of the kids he was fighting with. Not the tv’s fault, not the baseball team’s fault, and not my fault.

    If my 12 year old gets pregnant, I would question if I did anything wrong. But if she like decided to do it on the spur of the moment at school that would be her own fault and/or the fault of the boy she did it with. Not my fault. Not Britney Spears’s fault, not American Eagle’s fault. (Although I will admit that selling short shorts is probably hurting more than helping. … But it’s not like I would have bought them for her!)

    If my kid weighed 200 pounds at 10 years old, that one would be my fault. I know my daughter has an unhealthy appetite. But as her mother it is my job to feed her reasonable meals when she is in my care. Maybe I don’t know the contents of every dish served at McDonalds. And I was SHOCKED when I looked at the nutrition facts for our favorite meals from Taco Bell. But if my kid was getting that overweight, I would take her to a doctor who would ask what she eats and hopefully clue me in on where the problem (obviously) lays.

    To answer your main question: I hold myself accountable for teaching my kid the basics of how to stay out of the troubles you mentioned above. But I hold my child accountable for her own actions if she chooses to do wrong after I have told her better.

  5. Too Pretty To Work said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 4:19 pm

    It’s the parents responsibility on everything and anything their child does.

  6. amyvnsn said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 5:18 pm

    Very good points. I think since these generations of parents are getting younger and younger having kids they themselves have not learned the values and morals from life that you teach to your kids, so they are just not getting taught. Everyone thinks they should have something because someone else has it. Or drive a nice car because someone else has a nice car. They think “so and so has it, so why can’t I”? Did they earn it? You want a BMW, you pay for a BMW!

    I’m getting side tracted, but I hear what your saying, take responsibility for your actions! It all starts at home!!

  7. mom said,

    Wrote on November 10, 2011 @ 5:55 pm

    woah there, 1st I’m miss responsible so yes i am accountable for all things. even when my son bounced one of those supermarket balls and dropped all the fruit on the fruitstand. it was my fault for not taking that ball away and we picked up every one of those damn oranges. anyway. but why do you say women who spill hot drinks are stupid for putting in lawsuits. arent men just as capable of doing that too?

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