Q&A: How can we teach kids to be more respectful?

Question by George C: How can we teach kids to be more respectful?
My parents taught me to call adults “sir” and “ma’am,” obey my elders, and accept the consequences of my actions. This was not very long ago, but it seems things have changed a lot since. I see kids today swear at their parents and refuse to do anything except sit around and watch TV. What should be done about this?

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Answer by jrhd
If you want respect, model respect. Children with good manners are typically raised by or influenced by adults with good manners. You really can’t do anything about anyone else’s children, but you can certainly make sure that your own turn out to be decent human beings.

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11 Comments so far »

  1. ogg08 said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 6:31 pm

    hmm… that’s a tough one… but always be a good example to others and be a gentleman…

  2. Katskan said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 7:17 pm

    “Spare the rod, spoil the child.”

  3. Michelle V said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 7:41 pm

    be a good role model and set good examples :D
    lecture kids at a young age so they would learn young because little kids tend to not rebel as much as teenagers so yeah.

  4. Vlad said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 8:32 pm

    This is a question that has been argued about for a long time. I think that the adult needs to take control. If the child talks back, the adult needs to take action, he needs to talk back and a loud clear voice to let them know that “I’m in control, and don’t talk back to your elder.” Punishent is the last resort because it makes the child have a negative feeling toward the adult and thus making their behaviour even worse. Try to teach them the right way at an early agge and keep reminding them throughout their life, and most of all be a good role model while being a “cool parent” because the child will look up to you and try to be like you in some ways. I’m 14, but I understand and disagree with the way kids my age act these days.

  5. ♥mama♥ said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 9:04 pm

    Kids need disipline. And thats the major problem to me now, is that lawsuits are so rampant, teachers cant touch a child, even if that child is screaming in pain, hurt, poops, pisses their pants, nothing, for fear of repercussion, and just because its the law now in many places. And kind of the same for parents. Parents are under the gun for doing anything but time outs, which is ridiculous to me. Kids with guns, kids hitting teachers, killing parents, there was a story a couple days ago about some kids breaking anothers jaw, theyre little monsters, and its all because of the laws to “protect” them, when really it goes both ways. Its way too out of control.

  6. Gerta P said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 9:10 pm

    It’s fairly simple. Parents need to take the time and effort to set up clear rules, and enforce them. If the child breaks the rule, first give a warning, and the second time it’s loss of TV and computer for a day or two, and/or a trip over mom’s knee. That’s how it’s done in my family, and although my girls are vibrant and happy they do treat others with respect and politeness.

  7. # 6 BEAN ON BOARD said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 9:43 pm

    I think you teach respect to any age by giving respect. Leading by example works wonders.

  8. |Alice| said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 10:12 pm

    I’m currently 15. I understand what you’re saying.

    But things aren’t always taught by parents. My parents are barely involved in my life anymore. They have quite the terrible manners, they cuss in front of me and such. I use my “good manners” with everyone, even to my friends.
    I don’t sit around and watch TV all day, but it’s common for teens to do. Many of them are spoiled or are just simply lazy. They take things for granted. I’m not spoiled, I may be lazy, but not spoiled. I have to work hard at my job to earn my money. My parents aren’t going to give whatever I want and I would prefer them not to. I know how hard they have to work for it. They work about 74 hours, 7 days a week and they always come home exhausted.
    I accept my consequences for my mistakes because I’m the one who made them. It makes no sense to blame anyone else.

    Children are just too demanding these days. Technology is assisting in their laziness. One of the reason why many are overweight.

    I’d suggest to let kids experience hardships, don’t spoil them, use a paddle.

    Don’t scream or control at your children, it’s like reverse psychology, they’ll do the exact opposite. Like if you tell them to not date a certain boy/girl because they are “dangerous,” they’ll probably go date them and find out for themselves.

  9. MrsSmith said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 10:37 pm

    Unfortunately, you can’t discipline or tell kids not your own to be respectful. I guess the best we can do is set our lives as an example.

  10. iAnswer said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 10:57 pm

  11. it_lady85 said,

    Wrote on May 19, 2013 @ 11:43 pm

    Not all children are like that.But if a child is swearing at their parents, they probably learn it from them in the first place.It is up to that parent to make a change.I see alot of parents not caring about their children…It might be the reason why the child is so rude.

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