Q&A: Child psychology question: what effect does favoritism of one sibling over another have on both children?
Question by myangels: Child psychology question: what effect does favoritism of one sibling over another have on both children?
Grandparents are playing favorites with the oldest of 3 brothers. They have been consistent in spending more time with and buying more gifts for the oldest. The 2nd born is 3 years old now and has begun to notice. The third is 8 months old and has had nearly no relationship with his grandparents. (he cries when they hold him) What is going on? how is this going to pan out in the future for all 3? Anyone with experience or knowledge on this situation please help.
Best answer:
Answer by Crysta
The oldest will most likely be more spoiled and just expect things to come to him. Are you Italian by the way? I am too and I am the oldest so I am favored by my grandparents over my other 2 cousins and my sister. The second child will most likely feel like there is something wrong with him and ask himself why his grandparents don’t like him. The best thing to fix that is by talking to him when he asks about it. And the 3rd will just take an example from the second. But if that doesn’t work talk to all 3 of them and explain that the grandparents favor the oldest but it doesn’t effect how much you love them and there is nothing wrong with them.
What do you think? Answer below!
music<3 said,
Wrote on April 15, 2011 @ 5:48 pm
Favoritism makes a child feel special and makes them feel that they can get anything they want.
The unfortunate child will feel isolated and unloved; could become depressed or try to find other things that might love them more like different types of friends.