Keeping Your Kids Out Front Without Kicking Them From Behind: How to Nurture High-Achieving Athletes, Scholars, and Performing Artists (Psychology) Reviews
Keeping Your Kids Out Front Without Kicking Them From Behind: How to Nurture High-Achieving Athletes, Scholars, and Performing Artists (Psychology)
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Keeping Your Kids Out Front Without Kicking Them From Behind is a common sense guide for moms and dads of talented and gifted children. In this practical book, authors Dr. Ian Tofler and Theresa Geronimo–experts in the field of parenting–present their Seven-Step Program for Encouraging and Protecting High-Achieving Children. This innovative program offers guidance for establishing healthy boundaries between parents’ ambitions and the needs of their talented children and clear-cut instructions for helping children balance achievement with happiness.
To read Debating What is Best for Our Children, an excerpt from this book,click here.In this competitive age, where children are busier than their parents and parents are obsessed with their child’s achievements, psychiatrist Ian Tofler and writer Theresa Foy DiGeronimo have asked an urgent question: where do parents draw the line between encouraging and pushing too hard? Their book, Keeping Your Kids Out Front Without Kicking Them from Behind is a compelling and practical blueprint for preventing kids from being overscheduled, overworked, and overly pressured.
To map the differences between encouragement and exploitation, the authors describe relationships between parents and children throughout history. They underline the squirmy similarity between the 17th century child working long hours in English coal mines and the 21st century child expected to practice piano for four hours after school, play football when injured, or attend summer SAT boot camp. “We believe the line is drawn at the point that separates the parent’s needs and goals from those of the child,” say Tofler and DiGeronimo.
Vivid examples drawn from both celebrity children (actress Natalie Portman and 7-year-old pilot Jessica Dubroff ) and talented kids from across the country suggest both guidelines and red flag warnings for parents who want to support the development of talent while protecting their children. One chapter grabs narcissistic, needy parents by the lapels and gives their behavior the bad label it deserves: “Achievement by Proxy Disorder”–a syndrome where the parents need for fame, wealth, and recognition (as gained through a child’s accomplishments) takes priority over the child’s needs and goals. Other insightful chapters focus on a seven-step plan that avoids APD and helps parents to evaluate and encourage their talented children. Tofler and DiGeronimo urge parents to settle for nothing less than putting the fun back into being a child. This wise and necessary book suggests a wholehearted golden rule for nurturing talent: love children for what they are; not for what they do. –Barbara Mackoff
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